Showing posts with label dealing with emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dealing with emotions. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

The BLOOD is Still Working and Healing Your Pain of Molestation & Rape

"Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me." John 14:3 KJV

Have you ever been molested or raped?  It doesn't matter if you male or female, the pain is still so real for both.  

How many times did it occur in your life?  Did you know that person or person(s)?

Who on Earth wants to answer those type of questions about their life?  

But dear heart, you have to answer those questions.  Your Story.  Your Testimony.  Can't nobody tell it like you.  In fact you are courageous in this moment right now to even show up to a blog post like this one.  

The reason why I wanted you to look at those questions and answer them honestly is because you have been in a Fight...and it is literally the fight of your lifetime!

The Painful Memories vs. Your Awesome Future



One of the oldest tricks of the enemy is to keep you distracted to keep your from getting to your future.  The future is always better than your past.  The enemy don't want you to get what God has for you, so he reminds you of the pain.  The enemy ties up the emotions that he knows will HURT you the most to use them against you.  He doesn't fight fair because he is a devourer.  He is a coward. A thief. He is a nobody compared to the living Jesus that lives on the inside of you.

The most cowardly way to do this is tie up your mind, emotions, and break your heart even more from them memories.  The enemy wants to keep robbing you from having a healthy sex life, experience real love, and destroy your trust in mankind.

You wrestle with the fact that maybe they got away with it and they went on living their life.  You wrestle with the fact of why evil had to come your way and take advantage of you.  You wrestle with the fact with why your innocence was taken, why your trust was destroyed, and even worse why your faith has been tested to the breaking point.  

The devil is a lie. 

JESUS HAS REDEEMED YOU...

What does redeem mean?  I looked it up on google...

1. compensate for the faults or bad aspects of (something).
2. gain or regain possession of (something) in exchange for payment.

WOW!  JESUS paid it all to gain possession of you.  That's how much HE LOVES YOU!
So even when bad things happen, the Blood that was shed STILL has the power to heal all your wounds-physically, mentally, and spiritually.  It still works.  The Blood still has power.  

NO evil deed is any match for the Healing Power of The Blood of JESUS. 

We live in a fallen world.  Some people pervert it so much that it's sick and evil.  We can't comprehend how one can do anything like that but that's because we have a heart not to do that.  So we won't ever understand why people think they have the right to violate another person.  

But we are armed with the most Victorious Tools of all the world. 
  • The Blood of Jesus-who freely died for YOU and ME
  • A Redeemer Who Still Lives and LOVES You and Me
  • Therapists, Pastors, and Support Groups because iron sharpens iron.  We all need help sometimes.  
  • Scripture that could literally change our lives by the POWER in the Word
YOUR POWERFUL DECLARATIONS>>>READ RIGHT NOW 
 
 I could go on and on...you have to know that you ARE victorious.  You are walking in victory right now as we speak.  You are more than a conqueror.  You been through all that and you are still here!  GOD is not finished with you.  You still have work to do.  You still are precious in His Sight.  You are a Creation of the Most High God.  God makes no mistakes with His creations.  God has an awesome plan for your life.  Your best days are still ahead of you.  Your heart is redeemed.  You have been renewed.  You have been restored.  The pain of the past will NOT have you in bondage.  You love freely.  You make love to the one God created for you to be with.  You have joy within your soul.  You have peace of mind.  You carry no shame from your past.  All things are work together for the good.  Your story is a testimony that will free others.  Your pain is not in vain.  No tear is ever wasted.  All things are working for the good.  Thank God for the Blood.  You praise God because you have breakthrough.  God has an awesome future for you.  Don't you give up! 
 
Thank you Jesus for healing everyone reading this right now.  Thank you for giving them freedom from the painful memories.  Thank you Jesus for the freedom to love.  Thank you Jesus for the freedom to trust love again.  Thank you Jesus for the Healing that is taking place right now!  You better PRAISE HIM!!!

My favorite verse ever that is a Spoken Word for YOU!
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV

ACTION STEPS
1.  Get professional help if needed.  Ain't nothing wrong with help.  Even professionals need help on some things.  We all need help sometimes.  
2.  Get in your secret place and get in the presence of God.  This is SO powerful!  It can be a closet, the bathroom, or the bedroom...just invite His presence and watch how God speaks to your heart.
3.  Tell your story.  If you don't do it publicly, tell it to someone you know that been through what you been through.  Journal, journal, and journal so more.  It is truly therapy.
4.  Make declarations over your life DAILY.  Speak them out.  Believe.  Have Faith.  
5.  Grab some scriptures that speak to your situation.  All you have to do is Google it and so many will come up for that particular situation you are seeking God for.

INSPIRED BY:
"The Blood" ft. Zacardi Cortez - James Fortune & FIYA Live  Watch out now this video is super anointed! lol  Can't help but shout on this one.  Don't forget to support our artists for giving their all to us by picking up their work on itunes.




Much love, 

Andrea

P.s. Let me know that you are more than a conqueror in the comments below!  Or you can write me with your testimony at christianenvelope@gmail.com

I am more than a conqueror! :)
 








 
 



Tuesday, March 31, 2015

LIFE IS HARD ON YOUR OWN...LOVE, LIFE, FIRE, & GOD ARE "BEAUTY'...

"Depression knows no name, race, or gender...it shows up slowly and stays too long." Andrea  Williams




Life has it challenges.  It trials and tribulations.  I remember several years ago thinking if only I gave myself to the Lord the problems of life would somehow cease to exist.  Maybe that would be the answer to any pain I would experience.  Maybe if I gave it all over to the Lord like the Preacher said that it would wipe away all the sins of my past (and even the sins I can't seem to stop leaving alone).

They were right...it wiped them away.  But, the problems, shame, pains, and issues of my life didn't stop.

I know Saints stay with me, I'm going somewhere with this one.

So when you go through something EXTRA hard, you begin to think stupid, irrational thoughts.  My moment--while I actually had more than one--seems to come around when divorce happens.  I don't know what it is about the death of a family hurts me like crazy.  I can grieve the death of loved ones, because I know they are going to be with the Lord.  But the separation and divorce trials I guess is the upset trigger for me.  

So much so that suicidal thoughts crossed my mind...

Where am I going to go?  How am I going to handle this now?  How did I fail this marriage?  Why I love someone that I can't stand now?  You go through all these emotions and you still have to work, be Mommy, and keep your head on straight while going through the most emotional rollercoaster on a DAILY basis.  Trying to be strong and hold it in is a dangerous place to be emotionally.

The major factor for even thinking those thoughts were the loss of my husband and family unit as I believed it to be.  The loss of love that I thought I had forever.  The pain of trials and tribulations.  In some odd way, the loss of my identity.  Total overwhelm where I thought I wasn't strong enough to handle it.  It's just too much.  "Just pass me over...till my Savior Comes."  Lyrics from Anthony Hamilton in "Pass Me Over."

But God. :)

You are NOT promised a life that won't have problems, trials and tribulations, and let's face it fire that burns so that you want to escape it all.  You don't escape sin at all times because you are now saved and forgiven.  That's almost like saying I'm a believer now, so I will kick my feet up and enjoy life.

Even Jesus suffered, was persecuted, tempted, faced rejection from people who He loved and even people who didn't even know Him!  Jesus performed miracles and was doubted that He was the Savior.  Jesus had to lead people who was deep in sin and loved it there.  Jesus went hungry while fasting 40 days that would sure to tempt His flesh.  Talk about overwhelm!  Lemme grab some Scripture...

After fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry.

The tempter came to him and said, "If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread."
Matthew 4:2-3NIV

The more I read this Chapter of Matthew, the more I realize that the key is that God is WITH YOU AT ALL TIMES...even in the fire of life.  I began to realize that I am forgiven, but it keeps me HUMBLE before the Lord.   It reminds me that I can't do this on my own and I don't want to do life on my own.  Giving your life over to God gives you the grace, love, and covering of forgiveness that you can't get from man or self.  It opens up a prayer line of intimacy of the Best Friend Ever!  You get the covering of the Lord who is your strong tower.  You get the covering of the Holy Spirit that leads you wisely.    Let's see how Jesus handles that temptation...

Jesus answered, "It is written: 'Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.'" Matthew 4:4 NIV

POWERFUL! :)  What if we rebuked every negative thought that entered our mind.  What if we kept standing in faith no matter how hard life gets like Jesus did.   What if we held on to that word and walked in it especially when we don't feel like it?  How different would your life be?  How beautiful would your life be?

Trust God with all aspects of your life.  Trust God with your hurt and pain even when you feel like you can no longer handle it.  You are meant to be here.  Your life is beauty to God-He created you!  Your life is NOT in vain.  God didn't create you because He had nothing else to do, HE WANTED YOU. :)  Hold on to that on the days you don't feel worthy enough.  Hold on to that when you feel like you are so far removed with your sin.  Hold on to the Word of God when you feel like you are overwhelmed, because from what I hear...

From what I know...God's Word doesn't return Void. :)

ACTION STEPS:
1.  Fire always Births Beauty.  God always trades beauty for ashes.  Here is some word: "To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified." Isaiah 61:3 KJV

God proved this to me by restoring our marriage to even better than it was before the fire.  I just look in awe.  I also have scars of pain.  But the joy overrides it all.  The oil of beauty gives me the joy I have been searching for the whole time. You learn things in the fire that you can't learn on your own.  I heard T.D. Jakes say that this morning and it's the truth times 10! :)
Your Action Step is to just TRUST the process even in the midst of it!  
Don't give up!  Don't shut down and build up the wall to resist love.  Don't run from God to escape because God wants to help you no matter how far gone you are.  It's not the end.  On the other side of the fire is beauty!  Get ready to see some beauty!

INSPIRED BY:  
Actually two songs, one by Anthony Hamilton called "Pass Me Over," and another favorite Dru Hill in "Beauty."  Support our artists by purchasing your favorites!



See you Next time Under the Myrtle Tree!

 









Andrea
 


Saturday, February 14, 2015

Emotional Rollercoaster - How to Deal with Emotions...

Right to the heart of things...the Emotions.  They can take you to the highest of highs and lowest of lows.  Emotions can make you do things you never thought you would do.  They can make you show out in ways you never thought you would.  Of course, that never happened to you or me. :)

Have you ever ended up in the wrong bed before?
Have you ever drank or smoked something you never would have before, but emotions...
Have you ever threw things and cursed people out all because of the heights of your emotions.

It's ok.  It doesn't matter how spiritual and saved you are we all have had a moment, or two, or three.  The problem is that emotions shouldn't drive who we are.  Emotions shouldn't mold our character.  Emotions shouldn't continue to make bad decisions for us and after things have calmed we have to live down the mess that we made. 

The only thing about emotions is they make you unstable.  You can't stand on shaky ground. 

They make you trust people you shouldn't.  I can't tell you how many times I gave it all away and trusted a person only to find out I was leading with my emotions or flesh instead of discernment, wisdom, and the Holy Spirit.

The emotional roller coaster can break your heart in-to.  You feel isolated.  Alone.  Don't let that emotion have anything to do with love because you sure will show out no matter how much you try to control it. 

What if there was an easier way?  What if there was a way to control your emotions so you won't show out so bad?  What if there was a way that God could heal the pain or will you stay hurting forever?

There is a way!

You have to first decide to feel what you feel and be cool with that.  Walk through it...just don't stay there and tell the whole world about it.  Don't ever make important decisions in the midst.  You then have to decide that emotions come and go.  .

Get a pen and paper or your cell phone and take this scripture down...set the alarm for it to pop up and remind you everyday if you have too.

 Surely your goodness and love will follow me
    all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
    forever.
              Psalm 23:6 NIV

No matter how you feeling tonight or the next night, you have to remember that EVERY day has purpose.  No matter if this your season to be in a valley or on the mountain top.  The Lord's goodness and love will follow you.

Nobody can touch that.  No circumstance can touch that.  Nothing can separate you from the Love that the Lord has for you.  Believe it or not, all things are working together if you are a believer.  The good, the bad, and the ugly.  Nothing can stop the plan and purpose God has for you-not even your emotions.

DON'T UNDERESTIMATE HIS POWER

We underestimate what a friend we have in JESUS.  That's a song, but it's truth.



We forget that Jesus cares about our feelings and our tears.  He cares about the tenderness of our hearts.  He cares that our soul is healthy. So why are we so ashamed to talk to Him?  Why are we so ashamed to call on Him?

A true friend indeed who takes you as you are...messed up and emotional.  A true friend who loves you enough to change you for the better even if it hurts for a minute.

What I do know with every part of my being is that no tear is wasted.  No problem is too great that God doesn't provide a way of escape (I Corinthians 10:13).     No experience that has you on a emotional rollercoaster today will be wasted.  It will add up to work out the whole picture of your life-for your good.

So, hold on to that verse and know that God's goodness and love COVERS you all the days of your life.

ACTION STEPS:
1.  Let them do what they do.  Emotions are a human experience.  When you feel like you are spiraling out of control, you need to call on the LORD.
2.  Get in the Word to get Wisdom.  The more wisdom you seek the better you get...like fine wine.  You begin to taste better and pour better.  You grow to be the person God called you to be.
3.  If you find yourself in the same jacked up situation over and over again, you have to question yourself.  You have to check yourself to see what is wrong.  God will reveal it to you especially if you are blinded by emotions.
4.  If you fail, Forgive yourself.  Pick yourself up and work towards doing better.  Baby step by baby step.  Before you know it, a year will pass.  You will look back over your life in awe at what the Lord has done!

Did this blog bless you?  Why don't you share the love.  Comment below and let me know that you are walking toward a change today.  I know I am!

Until the next post...your Favorite Life Coach,
Andrea